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Nov 04

5 Compelling Reasons Why You Should Ask for Help

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Sometimes, it is necessary for one to reach out for help

“You are never strong enough that you don’t need help.”
― César Chávez

I’ve always been a big Superman fan since I was a kid.  I used to have a costume similar to the man of steel that I would always wear during Halloween or any of the kiddie parties I attended.

My wife even teases me that even at my age now, I still become a kid when it comes to all stuff about Superman particularly the Christopher Reeve movies.  After all, he was my generation’s Superman,

Apparently, my wife finds it funny (in a cute way) that I never grew tired of watching my Superman DVD’s or even when I chance upon them on HBO.

“Little boy, would you like some snacks while watching?” she would always ask to which I would just reply with a sarcastic smile.

Of all the Superman movies, I love the first Superman from 1978 the most.  This movie introduced us to the Man of Steel from the moment he left Krypton to the time when he finally became the world’s most beloved superhero.

One of the highlights of the movie, and perhaps, the most defining moment was when Superman turned back the hands of time to save Lois Lane (who died because Superman was busy saving the world and for a moment forgot that his lady-love was being swallowed by desert soil).

It was a bit preposterous but who cares?  When you’re a kid who looked up to a hero, that’s awesome no matter which way you look at it!

But it also made me realize something now that I’m looking at it from a personal development blogger’s eyes.  Superman, with all his strength, speed and power cannot save everyone.  He cannot do everything on his own.  It’s ironic that of all the people he can’t save, it had to be his girlfriend.

It’s funny how most of us try to become superman sometimes.  We all have the tendency to do everything ourselves when we could have used an extra set of hands to carry out a goal.

If Superman can’t do it alone, how could we?

Here are 5 compelling reasons why you should ask for help when necessary:

 

1. Time will come when you won’t have a choice – no matter how much you believe in your capabilities and no matter how positive your mindset is, you have to face the fact that there are things you cannot do alone so why prolong the agony of riding solo when you can enlist the help of someone else?

Ask for help.  It’s not that difficult to do so.

 

2. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness – reaching out for help does not make you less of a person.  It doesn’t even make you incapable.  Rather, it makes you human.  Everyone needs help sometimes so get over the limiting belief and don’t be afraid to ask for other people’s help when you feel the need to.

 

3. There are people who are better than us in certain things 

”If you ever find a man who is better than you are – hire him.  If necessary, pay him more than you would pay yourself.” – David Ogilvy

Some leaders have the wrong notion of not hiring someone they consider as threats because they’re better than them and this is where you separate the good leaders from the bad.

Great leaders hire people who are better than them because they look at them as assets who can contribute instead of threats who are out to replace them.

We are all unique from one another.  We have different strengths and weaknesses but one thing’s for sure, we cannot be good, or shall I say better than everyone else in everything.  You must accept the fact that some people are better than you when it comes to other things which is why you should be open to the possibility of asking for their help when the need arises.

 

4. Not seeking help is a form of conceit – whether you admit it or not, part of the reason you are reluctant to seek help is not just because you think you can get it all done or you think you’re self-sufficient but because it feels good to take all the credit to yourself than share it with others.

This sounds a bit too much but we’ve all been there haven’t we?

 

5. No one becomes successful without the help of others – one of the best lessons I’ve learned about success comes from John C. Maxwell in his book, The Success Journey.

One of the things he said about the success journey is that no one can do it alone.  You need a travel partner to help you complete the journey and I definitely agree with this.

Most of the successful people we know like Jack Canfield, Tony Robbins, or even the late Jim Rohn all had mentors who guided them towards success.

Zig Ziglar often talked about a Wall of Gratitude where he had pictures of the people who influenced his life and helped him achieve success displayed.

 

Over to you

So what’s stopping you from seeking help from others?

I would love to hear from you so feel free to leave a comment or share your stories below.

 

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Noel Rosos

About Noel Rosos

Noel is a husband, father, author, performance coach and self-proclaimed FAILUROLOGIST who helps business owners and struggling individuals convert their failures into opportunities through inspiring blog posts, life-changing books and exceptional one-on-one coaching sessions

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  1. Sandra

    As someone who also loves super hero movies… Great post! I agree, you cannot do it all alone and although asking for help can be one of the most difficult things to do, it’s also so rewarding when you do get things done because of it.

    1. Noel Rosos
      Noel Rosos

      Absolutely agree Sandra. I remember George Clooney’s line from his Batman movie when he told Robin: “This is why Superman works alone.” I think it’s in our nature to try to do it all by ourselves because it’s much faster not to rely on someone else but it is also important that we know hot to recognize when we need help from others.

      Thanks for your comment Sandra and have a great week!

  2. Carol Makowski

    Sometimes I just don’t want to bother people. And sometimes I think they’ll see me as a dolt if I have to ask for help. However, as you say, that all boils down to conceit for thinking that I can “do it all.” Other times I do ask for help and it works out very well — saves time and new things are learned. Thanks for the post Noel.

    1. Noel Rosos
      Noel Rosos

      I think we’ve all been there Carol. I used to be that kind of person and from time to time, even now because we believe that we can get things done a lot faster by doing it ourselves. I believe that’s natural but sometimes, we also need to recognize that we need help and that is very important because as good and as talented as we all are, there are just things that other people are better than us.

      Thanks Carol and have a great week!

  3. Alex

    Asking for help is something not many people do, usually because of their ego. It’s so important to be able to feel comfortable with asking for help. When I started to feel comfortable with it, that’s when me life started spiraling upwards because I finally realised that I didn’t know everything and I have SO MUCH to learn!
    Thanks for bringing awareness of this to others Noel!

    1. Noel Rosos
      Noel Rosos

      Yes Alex, that big three-letter word EGO can be bad for us most of the time. As John Maxwell said, success is a journey and you will need companions to help you reach your destination.

      Thanks for your comment!

  4. leideecrag

    I think there is a split view many of us suffer from and that is are we the inferior or the superior? This is not the way we should think but we simplify ourselves to these two extremes. If we ask for help we fear we are the inferior because someone does know more than us and if we don’t then we fool ourselves into believing we are the superior. This would be true when we are asked for help, we feel we know more than the one asking us for help and therefore we are happy to oblige. We put ourselves down and do not hold enough compassion for ourselves when we do need or desire help and this is what is holding us back. So few make their goals or accomplish their dreams on their own. I am not able to recall a single acceptance speech where the recipient did not have someone they felt deserved thanks for their part in the achievement. We need to be kind to ourselves and be okay with needing a hand every now and then.

    1. Noel Rosos
      Noel Rosos

      I totally agree that this is a big dilemma for others. A double-sided knife as one would say but I think it is really up to our judgment to assess what we can do and what we cannot do alone. I love what you said about acceptance speeches. There’s never one that is empty which only goes to show that we cannot achieve success all by ourselves. One way or another, we will need people to help us to get to the next level.

      Have a great weekend and thanks for the insightful comment!

  5. Sheena Yap Chan

    there’s nothing wrong with asking for help. sometimes our pride gets in the way

    1. Noel Rosos
      Noel Rosos

      Absolutely Sheena! Thank you for stopping by!

  6. Stephanie D'Laroy

    Great post Noel. I guess in times I’ve been a very independent person but along the way I’ve faced many obstacles to the point when I did need to ask for help and yes i’ve come to realise that it is not a sign of weakness. Thanks for sharing :)

    1. Noel Rosos
      Noel Rosos

      Good for you Stephanie! Yes, we should all ask when we are in need and not view it as weakness but rather as humility

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