“You are never strong enough that you don’t need help.”
― César Chávez
I’ve always been a big Superman fan since I was a kid. I used to have a costume similar to the man of steel that I would always wear during Halloween or any of the kiddie parties I attended.
My wife even teases me that even at my age now, I still become a kid when it comes to all stuff about Superman particularly the Christopher Reeve movies. After all, he was my generation’s Superman,
Apparently, my wife finds it funny (in a cute way) that I never grew tired of watching my Superman DVD’s or even when I chance upon them on HBO.
“Little boy, would you like some snacks while watching?” she would always ask to which I would just reply with a sarcastic smile.
Of all the Superman movies, I love the first Superman from 1978 the most. This movie introduced us to the Man of Steel from the moment he left Krypton to the time when he finally became the world’s most beloved superhero.
One of the highlights of the movie, and perhaps, the most defining moment was when Superman turned back the hands of time to save Lois Lane (who died because Superman was busy saving the world and for a moment forgot that his lady-love was being swallowed by desert soil).
It was a bit preposterous but who cares? When you’re a kid who looked up to a hero, that’s awesome no matter which way you look at it!
But it also made me realize something now that I’m looking at it from a personal development blogger’s eyes. Superman, with all his strength, speed and power cannot save everyone. He cannot do everything on his own. It’s ironic that of all the people he can’t save, it had to be his girlfriend.
It’s funny how most of us try to become superman sometimes. We all have the tendency to do everything ourselves when we could have used an extra set of hands to carry out a goal.
If Superman can’t do it alone, how could we?
Here are 5 compelling reasons why you should ask for help when necessary:
1. Time will come when you won’t have a choice – no matter how much you believe in your capabilities and no matter how positive your mindset is, you have to face the fact that there are things you cannot do alone so why prolong the agony of riding solo when you can enlist the help of someone else?
Ask for help. It’s not that difficult to do so.
2. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness – reaching out for help does not make you less of a person. It doesn’t even make you incapable. Rather, it makes you human. Everyone needs help sometimes so get over the limiting belief and don’t be afraid to ask for other people’s help when you feel the need to.
3. There are people who are better than us in certain things
”If you ever find a man who is better than you are – hire him. If necessary, pay him more than you would pay yourself.” – David Ogilvy
Some leaders have the wrong notion of not hiring someone they consider as threats because they’re better than them and this is where you separate the good leaders from the bad.
Great leaders hire people who are better than them because they look at them as assets who can contribute instead of threats who are out to replace them.
We are all unique from one another. We have different strengths and weaknesses but one thing’s for sure, we cannot be good, or shall I say better than everyone else in everything. You must accept the fact that some people are better than you when it comes to other things which is why you should be open to the possibility of asking for their help when the need arises.
4. Not seeking help is a form of conceit – whether you admit it or not, part of the reason you are reluctant to seek help is not just because you think you can get it all done or you think you’re self-sufficient but because it feels good to take all the credit to yourself than share it with others.
This sounds a bit too much but we’ve all been there haven’t we?
5. No one becomes successful without the help of others – one of the best lessons I’ve learned about success comes from John C. Maxwell in his book, The Success Journey.
One of the things he said about the success journey is that no one can do it alone. You need a travel partner to help you complete the journey and I definitely agree with this.
Most of the successful people we know like Jack Canfield, Tony Robbins, or even the late Jim Rohn all had mentors who guided them towards success.
Zig Ziglar often talked about a Wall of Gratitude where he had pictures of the people who influenced his life and helped him achieve success displayed.
Over to you
So what’s stopping you from seeking help from others?
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