Mar 01

Would You Rather Be Right or Be Happy?

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Can you be right and be happy at the same time?

Probably, but not all the time.

There will be times when you will have to choose between the two.  This is a battle that goes on between us and the people we come across in our everyday lives.  It can happen between us and our spouses, our friends, our colleagues, or even with people we barely know.  One of the keys to personal happiness is learning when to stand your ground and be firm and learning when to let a situation go.


Choose your battles wisely

My wife and I have been married for more than ten years and we’ve had our share of arguments (which I end up almost losing) over the course of our relationship but we haven’t had one that can be considered a “relationship-breaker”.  Most of the time it’s about the most trivial of things like not lifting the toilet seat, not helping out with the house chores or my penchant of excessively playing video games or watching too many movies in my laptop.

These arguments can get nasty but we’ve always managed to stop it from blowing up because we both know when to give way to the other.  Is it really worth hurting one another just because of a video game?  Is it worth fighting for to prove who’s right and who’s wrong?

If you’re in traffic and someone cut you off, is it really a battle worth fighting for?  Do you really have to bring your window down and curse on the other driver?

Is someone is saying bad things about you, trying to bring you down and spreading nasty rumors about you, is it really worth engaging the enemy?


Let It Go

Choosing to be happy is not a sign of weakness.  Choosing to be happy shows maturity and humility.  You don’t have to risk your happiness by trying to prove yourself right all the time.  Some battles are not worth fighting.  Sometimes, the best course of action is to walk away from the battle.

Every time you’re faced a similar situation, think about it for a moment.  What do you have to gain by proving yourself right?  You prove your point, then what?  Did it make your relationship with the other person better?  Did the satisfaction add up to your happiness?

If you choose to engage your wife over a simple house chore, will that help strengthen your relationship?  What does it accomplish?  Instead of wrapping up a small argument, you’ll both be planting bitterness in each other’s hearts.

If you choose to bring your window down and let the other driver have a piece of your mind, does it make you feel better?  After it’s done, you’re still probably cursing in your car, telling yourself how stupid that other driver was.

If you choose to fight back the people who’s been bad-mouthing you, does it put an end to the situation?  Chances are, they will continue to say bad things about you because you can’t change such kind.  They thrive in destroying character and they won’t stop till they break you.  It’s a no-win situation however you look at it.

It is not worth sacrificing your happiness over a battle you’ll never win.  Life is too short for us to waste our energy in trying to prove ourselves right when we never really have to in the first place.

So I’ll ask you once again.  Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

Your choice.

Noel Rosos

About Noel Rosos

Noel is a husband, father, author, performance coach and self-proclaimed FAILUROLOGIST who helps business owners and struggling individuals convert their failures into opportunities through inspiring blog posts, life-changing books and exceptional one-on-one coaching sessions

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