Mar 02

What is Your Definition of Success?


“Success is getting what you want, happiness is wanting what you get”
― W.P. Kinsella

We all have our own definition of success.  For some of us, success means having a  million dollar mansion with several fancy cars parked in a garage as big as a whole subdivision.  For some it’s about owning a number of companies where thousands of people are reporting under you and calling you “boss”.  For others, it’s about being a popular figure in his or her chosen field, achieving celebrity status in the process.  Fame and fortune have been synonymous to the word success.

But does it really all boil down to these two?  Can we really be successful without being rich and popular?

Of course we can.  But it will depend on what your definition of success is.


Money cannot buy you happiness

Being rich and being able to get everything you want with a snap of your fingers is simply awesome.  Think about it.  If you have all the money you can have, you can buy just about anything your eyes can see.  You want to get a Porsche?  Check.  You want to live in a house on Hollywood Hills? Check.  What a great life indeed!

But this will all be immaterial without happiness.  So you’re rich, fine.  But do you still get to see your family or is a bulk of your time spent running the company?  Do you get to spend quality time with them?  Have dinner together with them?

We all work hard to make a living and earn as much money as we can but for what reason?  If you are doing it so that you can buy all the material things you want, then you are doing it for the wrong reasons.  But if you’re doing it so that you can enjoy the fruits of your labor with your family and loved ones, then you’re on the right path.

What good is a mansion if you’re the only one living in it?


Being famous does not equate to being happy

Tiger Woods was once the best golfer in the world.  He was rich and famous with all the endorsements coming here and there and he was simply the best in his sport.  He had a wife and kid he adored.  But then fame got inside his head and he decided to have an affair with other women.  His wife found out and his life spiraled down from that point on.

Where is he now?  Still playing but no longer at the top.  His rank plummeted to an all-time low.

Why?  Because you can’t be at your best if you’re not happy.


Appreciate what you have

One of the things I can be proud of  as a Filipino is the ability of people here to enjoy life.  Last week I was on my way back home from the office when I passed by a family who lived in a push cart at the side of the road.  They had small two small children and you can see that they are impoverished.  But what amazed me is how given their status, they are able to share a laugh while eating at the side of the road with their bare hands.

This family is nowhere near successful but they sure look happy to me.  They don’t have money, they sure as hell don’t have a house but they are happy.


Success without fulfillment is failure

For us to be truly successful in life, our goal should not be to make money and be famous.  The goal is to achieve happiness.  Spend time with your family, go out on vacation, celebrate Christmas together.  Life is short for us to not recognize that what would make us happy is right in front of us all along.


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Noel Rosos

About Noel Rosos

Noel is a husband, father, author, performance coach and self-proclaimed FAILUROLOGIST who helps business owners and struggling individuals convert their failures into opportunities through inspiring blog posts, life-changing books and exceptional one-on-one coaching sessions


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  1. Robert Petrie

    Happiness comes from inside, there is nothing outside that can make us happy, we can have everything we desire yet still be unhappy. Success comes from happiness, f we are happy then we are successful. Great post, when we appreciate what we have and we are happy in ourselves, we can then add the material things and enjoy them with those we love.

    1. Noel Rosos
      Noel Rosos

      100% agree Robert. We can find happiness if we look for it and look past the material things

  2. Pamina Mullins

    Success Noel in my opinion is creating a relatively well balanced and fulfilling life based on your individual core values. This is where most of us go wrong. We use externally created values as a blueprint to live up to. Therefore there is no one-size-fits all definition of success. It will be unique to individuals, environments and cultural and personal values.

    1. Noel Rosos
      Noel Rosos

      Absolutely Pamina. There’s no blueprint for it as well. It differs among each of us.

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