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Jul 13

4 Irrefutable Signs Your Emotions are Getting the Best of You

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Are you in control of your emotions or are your emotions in control of you?

“One ought to hold on to one’s heart; for if one lets it go, one soon loses control of the head too.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche

I commute to and from the office everyday and with public transport, you get to meet all kinds of people.  You have the quiet ones who choose to dabble with their mobile phones all throughout the ride playing games or watching movies; there are those who choose to sleep it out with their mouths open and their head banging against the window; and there are those who are chatty and likes to start a conversation with strangers.

I choose to be the first one.  As soon as I stand in line, my earphones are already patched in my ears where I listen to my chosen audio book for the week or my favorite podcasts.

There was this one time however when a seemingly ordinary day didn’t start out right for me.  The shuttle service I rode was still being filled up at that time and when it came my turn to take a seat, I suddenly heard the lady to the my left say:

“NEXT TIME LEARN TO SAY EXCUSE ME!”

I was surprised because I didn’t even notice that I was getting on her way or whatever she was doing at that time.  She then followed it up with:

“I was in the middle of something and you suddenly sat beside me!”

I was taken aback and got kind of irritated with what I heard.  I mean, I ride the shuttle service everyday and little things like these does not require everyone’s attention so I didn’t appreciate her making a scene for such a mundane incident.

“This is a public transport so I don’t see anything wrong with taking a seat!  You should have expected that someone will sit beside you right?”  I fired back, obviously irritated and embarrassed.

“HOW DARE YOU TALK RIGHT BACK AT ME?  HAVE SOME RESPECT, I’M OLDER THAN YOU!” she replied.  Her voice, louder than it was earlier.

I was thinking of talking back again but I stopped myself from replying back at the last minute.  I just put out a little smile while shaking my head from left to right.

She continued to say more but I didn’t hear them anymore because I already had my earphones on so I can block her out.

I felt like I did myself justice by replying back  but after all was said and done, there was a certain feeling of guilt inside me.  I was trying to assess if what I did was right.

Should I have just kept quiet and ignored her?

Should I have just said sorry and moved on?

There was nothing I can do anymore.  What’s done is done but there’s one thing I learned about myself when that incident happened.

I was a slave to my emotion.  I just let my emotion get the best of me!

I guess it all happens to the best of us.  We’re only humans after all but if we ever want to resolve this issue within ourselves, the first thing we need to do is recognize and accept that we are indeed slaves to our emotions and below are some of the warning signs you should look out for:

You react without thinking

When was the last time you went to the mall and saw this new, 50 inch smart TV that’s perfect for your living room and ended up buying it even if you had no plans of purchasing one?

When was the last time you ate a slice of your favorite cake and told yourself that it won’t hurt or affect the figure you worked so hard to achieve for weeks?

I bet I just hit a lot of nerves there didn’t I?

But it’s true!  I should know because I’m guilty of these things too!

Sometimes, we let our emotion take over and we don’t give out brains the chance to assess if something is good or bad for us and we trade that with the temporary pleasure this thing or action brings.

This is the very reason why it is not advisable to make big decisions when you’re angry because your judgment is clouded and when you do, most of the time, you end up regretting that decision.

I feel terrible already!  Guilty as charged!

 

You feel you’re right but then end up regretting what you did

I just gave you the best example for this scenario in my opening story above.  We’ve all felt this way when we’re very confident in doing something at the heat of the moment but then all of a sudden, make a 360 degree turn when we realize that there should have been a better option instead of the course of action we took.

When you’re at the peak of an argument with your spouse or partner, you want to impose your will and let the other party know that you’re right but in doing so, sometimes you end up saying hurtful things even if you didn’t intend to.

Feelings of regret is a sign that you just got owned by your emotions!

 

You get easily offended and emotional

Do you get offended with a joke that wasn’t even directed at you?

The bad news is, it’s not only a sign of being a slave to your emotions, it can also be a sign of insecurity.

Emotionally-stable people have control of their emotions and can easily differentiate jokes from personal jabs.  It also takes a certain amount of positivity to be able to maintain your composure in times when your judgment and decision-making is being challenged.

 

You overreact to small situations

Call it a bad day or waking up at the wrong side of the bed but isn’t it funny that sometimes, we overreact over something trivial?

I was at the counter of a department store to pay for an item I bought one time and the lady in front of me was asked by the cashier if she had smaller bills because she gave a one thousand peso bill.  That should have been nothing.  She could have just said she doesn’t and that’s it but instead, she began to reprimand the cashier and told her that department stores shouldn’t be asking their customers for change.

She could be right but does it really have to go that far?

 

Over to You

Do you see these signs on your own self?  Are you becoming a slave to your own emotions?

I would love to hear from you so feel free to leave a comment or feedback below.  Share your stories if you want to, they’re definitely most welcome.

 

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Noel Rosos

About Noel Rosos

Noel is a husband, father, author, performance coach and self-proclaimed FAILUROLOGIST who helps business owners and struggling individuals convert their failures into opportunities through inspiring blog posts, life-changing books and exceptional one-on-one coaching sessions

2 comments

  1. Tara Parker-Tong

    Noel,
    This was a great read. I was a consistent and thoughtless slave to my emotions and was always wondering why I could not think before I spoke. It was not until about a year ago I learned about emotional intelligence and what is means in everyday life. It is a difficult concept to incorporate but given time it does become routine.

    It is interesting that the gal felt she was due respect from you due simply to her age however she felt she owed you none. To use her age as a means of demanding respect she should have been a better example of how to be respectful in communicating. Just an observation of mine as I read through your experience.

    Tara

    1. Noel Rosos
      Noel Rosos

      That was an awful experience Tara because I don’t like making a scene or being involved with one for that matter. I was a regular and it looks as if it was her firat time there because she wasn’t familiar. I can still be emotional at times but I’ve been trying hard to keep it in check.

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