Oct 07

How to Use Hate as Motivation


Just as the things you love motivates you, so can the things you hate.

“Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty… I have never in my life envied a human being who led an easy life. I have envied a great many people who led difficult lives and led them well.”
― Theodore Roosevelt

If you read my blog regularly, you’ll know by now that I am a voracious reader.  I usually finish two books in a month (depending on the length).  I love devouring them through their audiobook versions and I started reading a new one earlier in my ride to the office and I couldn’t wait to share them with you.

The book is called “Lessons of a Lifetime” and it was so wonderfully made because it incorporated Darren Hardy’s voice as the narrator with that of some of Jim Rohn’s interviews and speeches.  It was made in a way that makes it seem like Darren was having a one-on-one conversation with Jim Rohn.  I suggest you pick it up because it’s full of life lessons and takeaways worth more than what you pay for.

One of the things that stood out to me was the part of the book where they discussed our “Why”.  In that chapter, Darren Hardy mentioned how we usually let the things we want motivate us.  What we don’t realize is that it’s not only the things we want that can motivate us.  Even the things we hate or dislike can become our motivation.

Jim Rohn gave the perfect example when he told about the day that turned his life around.  There was this girl scout who knocked on his door to sell him cookies for $2 each.  At 25, he didn’t have $2 to spare so he told the girl that he already had plenty.

Embarrassed for lying to the little girl, Rohn told himself: “I don’t want to live like this anymore.  This will never happen to me again.”

We all knew what happened next.  Jim Rohn is now considered one of the most influential, if not the most influential, motivational speakers of all time.

Jim Rohn didn’t want to live the kind of life he had at 25.  He hated it and he used that hate to turn his life around and become successful.

We all have things we despise that we try to avoid.  Things we are not comfortable with that we would rather not have.  But these things, if used the right way, can actually reap us benefits we never thought possible.


Let people’s criticisms and ridicule inspire you to prove them wrong

Sad as it may be but even if you’re not a celebrity nor a movie star, there are just people out there who are out to discredit, malign, and ridicule you.

There are people who will try to bring you down and it is all but normal for you to feel anger and hate towards these people.

Use this anger to motivate yourself to strive and go beyond expectations.  As the late Frank Sinatra once said, the best revenge is massive success.

Take the story of Walt Disney.  In 1919, the famous animator was fired by his editor after being told that he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas” in him.  Well, you know the rest of the story.  Mickey Mouse, Donald Duck, I mean, is this a guy who lacked ideas?


Let poverty inspire you to achieve abundance

One of the things I find common with people who have achieved massive success is that most of them, if not all of them, were once broke or bankrupt.

Halle Berry, Jim Carrey, Daniel Craig, Chris Gardner.  They were all broke and homeless at one point in their lives but where are they now?  They’re rich and successful that’s where they are.

Last year, I was at probably what I will consider the lowest point in my life.  We went broke and got buried in debt.  I never imagined I will ever get to that point and I wasn’t sure if I was ever going to get out of it.

For the first time in my life, I experienced what it was like to have my credit card declined.  It was embarrassing and I felt pathetic.  I told myself the same thing Jim Rohn said to himself.  That we cannot live this way.

I’m no millionaire.  At least not yet.  In a year’s time, we’ve managed to cut the amount of debt we’re in and with a bit of luck and a lot of perseverance and sacrifice, we’re looking to become debt-free by the end of the year, fingers crossed.

I just didn’t want to experience the embarrassment and helplessness again which is why I used that awful experience as motivation to make positive changes in our lives.


Let your unhappiness in your job drive you towards your passion

Most of the people I know, when asked how they’re doing career wise, would more often than not either reply with a deep sigh or make face in a rather discouraging way.

Right off the bat, I can sense that they’re not happy with what they’re doing and it’s alarming to know that more than 80% of our population feels that way.

There are many reasons for one to hate his or her job.  It can be because it’s not a good fit, because of compensation, unfair work hours, or simply because you can’t get along with your boss.  Whatever the reason may be, you’re not doing yourself favor by staying there.  If you’re not happy, you need to move out.

Use this experience as motivation to find meaningful work.  Look for something that is a good fit for you.  Find something you love to do and that you’re willing to do even if you don’t get paid.  Don’t go for the money.

Podcaster and motivational speaker Sam Crowley is the host of one of my favorite podcasts to listen to, Everyday is Saturday.  He used to be, in his own words, a “corporate slave” and when he reached the point when he couldn’t take it anymore, he quit his job to do what he really loves.  Public speaking.

It wasn’t all roses at first because he got broke for some time but he is now having the time of his life working from home, being his own boss, and running a thriving business that has earned him millions of dollars and it all started one night when his daughter asked him if tomorrow is Saturday because that’s the only time she gets to see him.


Over to You

What are the things you hate most?  What are you willing to do to avoid those things from happening?

I would love to hear from you so feel free to leave a comment below.  I would really appreciate it.


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Noel Rosos

About Noel Rosos

Noel is a husband, father, author, performance coach and self-proclaimed FAILUROLOGIST who helps business owners and struggling individuals convert their failures into opportunities through inspiring blog posts, life-changing books and exceptional one-on-one coaching sessions


  1. Julian Sirian (@JulianSirian)

    Brilliant, especially for me like today, this post cannot come at a better time.
    The energy behind hate can be a huge, extremly focused type of energy, when used constructively (and lovengly) way.
    Thanks for posting

    1. Noel Rosos
      Noel Rosos

      Absolutely Julian. We just need to channel this energy towards positive mindset and action. Let it inspire us instead of consuming us.

      Thank you for sharing as well!

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