“Emotion is created by a cause, whether that cause is factual or imaginary does not matter, as longer as the believer holds it as true.”
― Bangambiki Habyarimana,
I love listening to music on my way to work, while working, or just when I feel like chilling out. I have a huge collection that I have stored in my mobile phone (8GB to be precise) and I am so meticulous with them that I have set up multiple playlists that I would play depending on my mood.
It’s been all automatic for me ever since so imagine the horror when my phone, for some reason, failed to recognize my memory card. I did some troubleshooting on it but it looked like it was going to die a painful death and my impatience just wouldn’t let me let it go. In my persistence to get it fixed immediately, I ACCIDENTALLY FORMATTED my memory card wiping out all 8GB of music I’ve collected over the years!
I almost fainted in disbelief that everything’s gone! I mean, WHAT THE HELL!?!
Took me some time to accept the situation but what can I do?
I guess I just have to get them back again seeing as I was so smart not to have a backup in my PC (I know, stupid, really).
I spent the weekend getting them back and if there’s a silver lining from this whole experience, I guess it’s the fact that I can carefully choose the songs I want all over again and not waste my space with several of them that I don’t really play a lot. There’s that sense of excitement in going back to the drawing board and collecting albums after albums of my favorite artist.
Adversity strikes in moments we least expect and compared to the bigger ones we encounter like losing a job, a marriage or a business, the experience I described above will definitely pale in comparison. I guess my point in telling you the story above is that emotional stability plays a big role in leading a life of happiness.
If this happened a long time ago, I would have been so disappointed I would still persist in getting them back even if I knew there was no way that’s going to happen but personal development has taught me to accept bad situations and move forward.
Why should we have emotional stability and how important is it?
Emotional stability helps you maintain your focus
Adversity have different effects on people but when it does come in the moment you least expect it to, you tend to panic and more often than not, do things that adds to your list of things to worry about than actually coming up with a solution.
Having emotional stability helps you maintain your focus no matter how difficult and challenging things may become. It helps you to stay in control regardless of the complexity of your circumstances and more importantly, it helps you maintain your composure enough to help you think and analyze the situation and come up with a solution.
Emotional stability keeps you confident
Rejection and criticism can shatter one’s confidence easily. We’ve all experienced not getting the job we applied for. We’ve all been rejected by someone we liked. We’ve all been the recipient of harsh criticisms and I’ll be a hypocrite to say that I didn’t feel bad or had self-doubt after.
This is where you’ll appreciate having emotional stability because it is during these times when you need it the most. Having emotional stability helps you feel secured about yourself and your abilities that no amount of criticism or rejection can make you lose your self-confidence.
While it is indeed painful to be rejected, it’s not the end of the world my friend. Remember that people will always have something to bad to say about you even if you’re the kindest and friendliest person out there.
I’ve learned to manage my self-worth by living by one of my favorite Wayne Dyer quote:
“Your opinion of me is none of my business.”
Emotional stability keeps you happy
I don’t have a perfect life. Every now and then, trials come to test my faith. Sometimes it takes me to the limit but most of the time, it just makes me feel bad for a time but it doesn’t take long before I move on from it.
This is one of the gifts of personal development. By reading the books and listening to the speech of the likes of Jim Rohn and Zig Ziglar I’ve developed emotional stability that no matter how heavy and debilitating my circumstances become, I still manage to stay happy. In fact, I’ve never been this happy and excited my whole life!
There’s no blueprint or golden secret to it though. Just learn to appreciate what you have, be happy with where you are, be excited with the opportunities each day presents, and keep your dreams alive everyday from the moment you wake up to the time you close your eyes at night. You’re all good.
Emotional stability helps you stay hopeful
Sometimes it does feel like things are never gonna get better. You work so hard but nothing’s going right. You do everything you can to reach for your dreams but nothing seems to work.
Without emotional stability, you’ll probably just forget about the whole thing and give up on your aspirations. Your impatience will get the best of you and you’ll just quit because you’ve lost faith.
Emotional stability keeps you hopeful. It drives you to continue to push forward no matter how many times you fall. It helps you develop grit and you just won’t stay down until you reach your goals.
Over to You
Can adversity, rejection and criticism easily put you down? What are you doing to develop emotional stability?
I would love to hear from you so feel free to leave a comment or share your stories below.
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