“Often those that criticise others reveal what he himself lacks.”
― Shannon L. Alder
I used to feel insecure every time a friend or a colleague receives a promotion at work. It always made me feel inadequate and inferior that I’m not getting the same rewards even though I believe in myself that I am doing a hell of a job.
I used to ask myself, what am I doing wrong and why are they getting more blessings than I do? What should I do to be on the same boat?
Looking back, I felt embarrassed knowing how childish I was to react that way. I should be happy for my friend for the blessing he received. I should be proud of her for her achievements but instead of feeling those, I felt jealous and envious of them.
We each have our own insecurities and if we’re not careful enough, these insecurities can pull us down to a level of unhappiness that’s full of bitterness and regret and it can shatter our confidence in the process so here are 6 ways to overcome our insecurities.
Don’t compare your situation to somebody else’s. You’re not running their race. You’re running your own race. –Joel Osteen.
It’s no secret that I am a big Joel Osteen fan and ever since I discovered his speeches in the form of a weekly podcast, I’ve listened to each and every episode and this is one of his famous quotes that struck me hard and that I have lived by since because it is true that most of us live life as if we’re on a race against other people and this is where our insecurities start. We have our own race to finish, one without an opponent but ourselves.
We each have our own strengths as well as weaknesses and it is somehow immature to expect that we will be receiving the same reward or accolade that others had before us. Success won’t come if you continue to treat life as a competition.
2. Believe in what you can do
I simply don’t believe that someone was born without talent. Everyone can do something better than others can. You may not be good in numbers but you can be great at words. Soccer may not be the sport for you but basketball could be. You are good at something, that’s for sure. You may just have not found that something yet.
San Antonio Spurs forward and Superstar, Tim Duncan used to be a competitive swimmer before learning to play the sport he came to be known for which is basketball.
We’re all good at something and one we get to know what that something is, that will be our ticket to success. We just have to be patient and determined.
3. Be thankful
It’s easy to always complain about what we lack without realizing how blessed we are. Every time you find yourself complaining about how life has been unfair to you, think of the things you have to be thankful for. Yes, you may not have received the promotion you deserved and yes, you may not have the car you’ve always dreamed of but have you ever stopped to think of how lucky you are that you have a job?
It’s kind of bad to think that others may have it worse than you do but it is true. Others are not indeed as lucky as you are. We can’t have everything we want when we want to but if we work hard enough, we can have everything sooner than later.
You are what others say you are if you allow them to.
I heard this quote from one of the podcasts I listen to and I really loved it. I even wrote it down because it was so powerful. Sometimes, our worst enemy is ourselves because of our low self-esteem. Don’t sell yourself short by telling yourself that you can’t do something or that you do not deserve something. We all have greatness within us and no one will believe that if you yourself don’t. Don’t settle for mediocre and always aim for the best and yes, you deserve that, and don’t let other people tell you otherwise.
5. Be Patient
Has anybody told you that your time will come and that you just have to be patient? If yes, then you have to believe this person because this is absolutely true. Everything will fall into place at the right time because God always has a plan. You may not be getting that house right now but when the right time comes, you will get an even bigger one, something more than what you have dreamed of.
Nothing in life happens at random. Each and every event, even the bad ones, were put there for our own good and when the time is right, we will reap the fruits of our hard work.
6. Stop listening to other people
We will meet people who will try to pull us down by calling us names and putting labels on us and if we let them affect how we look at ourselves,they may just become successful. Learn to ignore these kinds of people. Treat what they say for what they are – words. They don’t define you or who you are and they won’t mean anything unless you put weight on them.
It’s normal to feel jealous of other people’s success and triumphs but use it as inspiration to stretch beyond your potential and not as an instrument for regret and resentment. We are all special in our own way and we are all capable of happiness and success if we really want to.
How do you fight your insecurities?
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