Jan 15

Intentional Living: Do you know where you are going?

intentional living

Are you living life on your own terms? Is your destination set?

β€œIt is intent which establishes one’s consequential outcomes.”
― T.F. Hodge

My daughter Shae celebrated her 7th birthday recently and my wife and I wanted to give her the best birthday party she could have so we went all out.  We rented a multi-purpose hall, hired a catering service, and bought her two gowns to wear on her special night.  It’s our way of rewarding her for her good grades and for being a really great kid.

We wanted to add lechon to our menu and our caterer recommended what she deemed as the best in town.  Lechon is one of the more popular Filipino dish often served in big events and we wanted to make our daughter’s birthday more special by getting one so a week before the event, per our caterer’s recommendation, we went ahead and looked for them so we can make an advance order.

I knew the place as per the address listed on the internet so it should have been a piece of cake but what I projected as a thirty-minute search eventually became a two-hour road to nothing.  Hell, it was already dark when we finally found it.  I thought I knew where I was going but in the end we almost got lost.

It’s difficult to reach your destination if you don’t know how to get there.  Sometimes, we think we know everything until our arrogance eventually gets us lost.  The same can be said about life.  We have our plans, our dreams and our goals that we build in our minds but we soon discover that we don’t really know how to meet them. Sometimes we think we know how but we don’t know where to start.  If you really want something, you need to have a plan and be intentional.

Are you a driver or passenger?

Intentional living is all about taking charge.  It’s very simple really.  If you want something, you have to go for it and do something about it.  The problem is sometimes, we all get caught up with life that instead of us taking our boats to where we want it to go, the waves bring us ashore.

Are you letting life happen before your eyes and just go with the flow?

I thought I didn’t but when I took a moment to look at where I am, I realized that I was actually just going with the flow.  I wasn’t living life the way I wanted to.  I didn’t have a destination and worse, I didn’t have a plan.  I had a job, we have a house, my kids went to school but that’s it.  i didn’t have a five or ten year plan.  I was just letting life happen in front of me.  I didn’t have direction.

I was a passenger and not a driver.


Having a job and sending your kids to school is not enough.  You have to be more specific in terms of what you want to happen, how you want it to happen and when you want it to happen.  Think SMART goal setting (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Time-bound).

Instead of saying I want to be rich someday, say I want to earn 1 million dollars in two years by investing my money mutual funds.

Sometimes we may think that we have everything figured out but if we take a closer look at where out lives are right now, you may be surprised like I was.  My family and I are getting by with what I and my wife earn and I thought that was enough as long as we get to eat thrice in a day and we were able to send the kids to school but I realized soon enough that we can’t keep living this way.  We can’t keep living from paycheck-to-paycheck and not do something about it.  We need to have a plan to get out of this rut and if it would take an extra job or a new job altogether, so be it.

I know I’ve said this before but no one has the right to complain about their situation if they’re not doing anything about it.  If your business is not generating income the way you expected it to, you need to make a change.  If you’re not getting the knowledge and experience you thought you would get in your current job, why not leave?

Are you happy?

The tagline of this blog is “Happiness is a choice” and the reason I picked it out of so many other alternatives is because most of us think that we don’t have a choice in most situations we’re in.

Some complain about hating their jobs yet they stay there for years.  Some wallow in self-pity when people say bad things about them and some choose to stay miserable after getting broke.  Contrary to what we always say that “we don’t have a choice”, the truth is, there’s always a choice and we can choose to be happy if we want to.  We can choose to be happy if we give happiness a chance.

Intentional living is not limited to our lifestyle choices.  It also includes our choices in attitude.

You can choose to be happy even if you’re broke.  You can choose to be happy even when you failed.  You can choose to be happy even if everything’s not going according to plan.  We can’t control what life brings nor the people around us.  The only thing we have control of is our attitude towards them.

Learn to play the cards you’ve been dealt with.

Let your destination be your motivation

Napoleon Hill said in his book, Think and Grow Rich,  that if you want to have a million dollars, you need to imagine what holding a million dollar feels like.

Knowing your destination makes everything a lot easier than setting out without an intended itinerary.  Knowing where you want to go gives you the motivation to keep moving forward and getting persistent.

Do what you’re passionate with, do what makes you happy and if that’s not possible yet, have a plan to get there.  Let your desired outcome entice you to become a better person and to live life on your own terms.

Life has never been clearer to me at this point and my journey has just started.  If you haven’t determined your desired outcome, you need to start now and begin the wonderful journey to happiness and fulfillment.

Over to You

Are you living life on your own terms?  Is happiness always your first choice?

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Noel Rosos

About Noel Rosos

Noel is a husband, father, author, performance coach and self-proclaimed FAILUROLOGIST who helps business owners and struggling individuals convert their failures into opportunities through inspiring blog posts, life-changing books and exceptional one-on-one coaching sessions


  1. Ryan Biddulph

    Happy birthday to Shae, Noel! Really exciting stuff. As for our intent, if we simplify things it comes down to wanting to be free. I build my day around freeing me and freeing my audience so I can blog from paradise and so they can blog from paradise. Vehicles of freedom find me as I hold the intent and yes, sometimes I drop this intent too lol πŸ˜‰

    Loving the message dude!


    1. Noel Rosos
      Noel Rosos

      Thanks a lot Ryan!

      Big honor to hear from the “king of intentional living” himself! I’m just living with a lot more clarity now and I wanted to share it so that others can experience the wonderful feeling of living on your own terms.

      Appreciate the comment bro! Give my regards to Kelli.

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