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Aug 18

10 Choices You Will Regret Making in the Long Run

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To live with fewer regrets, you have to make the right choices now

REGRET

We all have our own regrets in life that if only we can turn back the hands of time, we will instantly do without batting an eyelash.  The idea of changing something we did in the past to make the future better would have been beneficial to everyone if it was possible but of course, we all know that this stuff only happens in science fiction.

In life we only get one shot at everything.  Even the manner by which we live our lives is a one-shot deal.  If you chose to be lazy and just sit around waiting for luck to happen, you probably wasted a good number of years you could have used to improve yourself instead.

If you chose to work hard and find ways to improve the quality of your life then you’re probably enjoying the fruits of your labor as we speak.

Life is a series of choices.  The decisions we make now will have a big impact on our lives tomorrow that’s why it is very important that we carefully decide what choices we will make so that we won’t have to regret them in the future.

Here are things that if you are not careful with, you may regret in a couple of years time:

 

1. Laziness and Being Too Relaxed

One of the worst things that can happen to us, especially in our professional careers, is for the time to come when we get so comfortable with what we do that we take everything for granted.  It’s easy to fall into the trap of getting too familiar with your job that everything’s almost clockwork.  You do the same thing everyday and each day that passes by seems to be less of a challenge to you compared the previous days but instead of looking for more challenge, you settle where you are and wait for changes to happen.

You should always push yourself to become better than what you are right now so you won’t regret anything tomorrow.  If your job doesn’t bring out the best in you and you’re just in there for the money, maybe it’s time to start looking somewhere else.  Make the most of the time you have available.  Learn a new skill or enroll yourself in classes that would add to your knowledge.

 

2. Letting Go of Opportunities

Familiarity with a task you’ve been doing for the longest time makes you become comfortable with it which is not really a bad thing but if you are foregoing other opportunities for the sake of comfort, that’s a different story.

I was with my first job for ten years and there were a number of times within those ten years when I contemplated moving somewhere else because I didn’t see progress happening in my career but I always found myself procrastinating at the last minute because I didn’t want to lose the “comfortable” setup I’ve got.  I didn’t want to trade my 9-to-5 schedule for a night shift schedule even if it guaranteed a higher pay and more opportunities for growth.

Opportunities only come once so when it comes knocking’ on your door, be sure to welcome it with open arms.

 

3. Spending Less Time with the Family

We have different motivations as to why we work harder than other people.  There are some who does it to climb the corporate ladder, some does it to earn a better living to support their families.  It’s easy to lose track of time when we’re so focused with work and sometimes, along the way, we fail to strike a balance between work and family.

Kids will only be kids for a certain number of years and these are times we can never take back so as much as you can, spend more time with family.  Give them your attention while you’re home.  Talk to them, have fun with them, spend the weekends with them because when they reach their teens, they won’t be as accessible as they are today.

 

4. Being with Bad Company
 

Like we’ve mentioned in a previous post, being in the company of good people will help us put our lives in the right order.  Our friends have a big influence over us and if you are hanging out with the wrong kind, they will easily suck you into oblivion.

I have a friend who has a colorful past.  He used to do drugs but then everything changed when he had his own family.  He met a girl who loved him so much and they had a son who was their pride and joy.  Everything was going well until my friend crossed paths with the same people who got him into drugs in the first place.  His health suffered, his wife and son left him, and he’s now living a very lonely existence.

He may not say it but I know deep inside that if he regrets everything that happened because he traded away life-long happiness over a few moments of getting high.

 

5. Living Other People’s Dreams
 

One of the biggest mistakes you can ever make is to live life according to other people.  Live your life the way you want to, do what you want and not what other people wants you to do.

Believe it or not, there are still some people who thrive on other people’s validation.  You should take responsibility and live life on your terms.  Otherwise, you’ll be living other people’s lives and not your own.  It’s like pretending to be someone you really are not.

 

6. Not Welcoming Change
 

Change is a sign of progress and you won’t see progress if you continue to do the same thing over and over again.  Welcome change into your life instead of resisting it.

Maybe transferring departments isn’t such a bad idea?  Maybe adapting changes in your eating habits will make you healthier?  You’ll never really know unless you try won’t you?

It’s important to welcome change in your life because not doing so will keep you from reaching your potential.

 

7. Giving up on Adversity
 

To be successful at something, sometimes you just need to be persistent and keep moving forward until we reach our goals. Unfortunately, not everyone can be as tenacious as others and will choose to give up on a goal if they see very little improvement. Some would even quit after their first encounter with failure.

We all face problems everyday.  In fact, I don’t know of anyone who is problem-free.  We can’t avoid setbacks, that’s part of life.  The real value lies in how we respond to these difficulties.  Will you cry in the corner and complain all day long or will you stop whining and pick up the pieces again?  It’s not how many times you fail that matters, it’s how many times you get up.

 

8. Not watching Your Spending Habits

With credit cards easily becoming more accessible to almost everyone who wished to avail of it, it is no surprise at all that there’s also a rise in the number of people who are currently in debt.

We’ve all been guilty of this.  Sometimes, a single credit card is not even enough to satisfy our urge to buy more stuff than we actually need.  As much as you can, stop using credit cards when possible because doing so is spending money we don’t actually have.

Prioritize what you need over those that you want.  Live a simple lifestyle and stop falling into the comparison trap which is more often than not, the reason why we buy things that we don’t need.

 

9. Not Living a Healthy Lifestyle

This year, with all the health problems that’s been happening to friends and colleagues, I can’t help but worry about mine too.  I’ve had friends who had stroke, colleagues who suffered a heart attack and relatives who were diagnosed with diabetes and kidney disorders.  The thought of this happening to me is really scary.  After all, my kids are still very young.

This is the reason why I am pushing myself to exercise more regularly when I can and watch my food intake.  I realized that the choices I make in terms of health will do me a big a favor in the future.

I would like to live long enough to see my children grow up and have families of their own and the best way to start is to start living healthy.

 

10. Always Planning but Not Doing

Once in a while we get our light bulb moments where an idea seems to be too interesting and too bright not to pursue.  We immediately plan around this idea and imagine ourselves actually realizing this idea.

This is all good but the problem with us is sometimes, we’re all about imagining and planning but we never take action.  Our mind will always tell us that we can make this work and that the idea will be good for business.  We research, we make plans, we read every available reference material we can find but in the end, we don’t have the guts to start it.

You’ll never really understand how great this idea is without actually starting.  Don’t prolong the planning stage and stop trying to make everything perfect before you actually start because a goal will only remain a wish without action.

If we want to live with fewer regrets in life, we have to make it a habit to make the right choices because the repercussions of the choices we make will only be felt in a few years’ time.

 

What choice did you make five years ago do you wish to take back if you are given the chance?

I would love to hear from you so feel free to comment or leave a feedback below.

 

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Noel Rosos

About Noel Rosos

Noel is a husband, father, author, performance coach and self-proclaimed FAILUROLOGIST who helps business owners and struggling individuals convert their failures into opportunities through inspiring blog posts, life-changing books and exceptional one-on-one coaching sessions

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  1. Mary

    All 10 are so true Noel, I’m always glad when I take the time to read articles like this it helps put me back on track, the hardest for me and the one I probably struggle most with is taking care of my health. Thanks for sharing :-)

    1. Noel Rosos
      Noel Rosos

      You’re not alone Mary! Regular exercise is what I struggle with the most. I’ve been experimenting on ways on how I can get it into my system and it’s still a work in progress. Glad you liked the article. Thanks!

  2. Pamina

    All very relevant points Noel – and so prevalent. Unfortunately, most of us don’t realize we’re tripping ourselves up like this! Once we become aware of it – thanks to articles like yours, and take RESPONSIBILITY for it, we are able to change it. This is what I specialize in http://breakfreeandreclaimyourlife.com/

  3. onthepondatbr

    All good points but there is one that many regret not making and that is developing a program that will enable them to properly manage stress on a daily and as required basis. To many do not realize that every problem is directly or indirectly related to stress.

    1. Noel Rosos
      Noel Rosos

      I couldn’t agree more. Stress leads to bad decisions and lack of joy yet some people soak in it for far too long. We can’t complain and let and stress ruin our lives little-by-little. We need to take action too.

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