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Apr 29

Making the right choices: What’s your story?

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What you want to be tomorrow depends on the choices you make today

Making the right choices determine our future

I’m a big basketball fan and with my busy schedule I haven’t really watched the games lately.  I only get to catch up with the latest news through the internet and I must say, this year’s NBA playoffs is turning out to be one of the most exciting playoffs in recent years but amid the buzzer-beaters and upsets that’s been happening to the top teams, there’s also this controversial news about one of the owners of the teams currently participating in the playoffs.

Los Angeles Clippers owner, millionaire Donald Sterling is currently hugging the headlines after TMZ revealed an audio recording of him saying overly offensive and racist remarks toward African-Americans which is quite ironic because majority of the players in the NBA are of African-American heritage and to make matters worse, his team itself, is composed of mostly African-American players.

Several teams have already come out with their own forms of protest and as we speak, most of the team’s major sponsors are already pulling out.  The NBA is also going to conduct an investigation and sanctions will definitely not be far behind.

This development made me realize something.  As successful and rich as Donald Sterling is, will this be the legacy he will be leaving behind?  Will he be remembered for this unacceptable and insensitive attitude instead of his successful run as the longest-tenured team owner and real-estate developer?  Probably so.

We all have our stories to tell and most of the time, this is a shortened version of our entire existence up to that point and in these stories, we mention all the highlights and the triumphs we’ve been through.  Do we really want to tell a story that involves a major lapse in judgment such as racism?  Life is a series of choices and if we want to live a happy and fulfilled one, making the right choice should always be our priority.

When people talk about you, would you like to hear that you were known for being a bully or for being always late in coming to work?  When you get to be with the Lord someday, would you like people in your wake to talk about how you backstabbed them back when you were still alive?

Of course the answer to all these is a resounding “No”.  Who would want to be remembered in a negative way?  But this all depends on the things we do today.  The choices we make today will determine our future.  What you are right now determines your legacy.

We’ve heard this time and time again but cliché as it may sound, the quote, “There’s always a choice.” is and will always be true and this applies to every aspect of our lives from the food we eat to the lifestyle we live, and to how we respond to certain situations.  Making the right choice is critical and the following actions should help you choose the right option:

 

Stick to your morals

We’ve all been raised by our parents to be a good person.  We’ve been taught to respect the elders, say thank you and please, say sorry when you wronged someone.  We’ve been given the basic foundation but sometimes as we grow old, there is a tendency for some of us to forget these basic principles which leads us to the wrong choice.

Always do the right thing.  We all have a concept of right and wrong.  Good and bad.  It doesn’t take a genius to figure out which option to take.

 

Think before you speak

“Words are like eggs dropped from great heights; you can no more call them back than ignore the mess they leave when they fall.”
― Jodi Picoult, Salem Falls

Words spoken can never be taken back that’s why it’s imperative to practice restraint and proper judgment before letting them leave your mouth.  Think of the effect it may have on people.  Think of the effect it may have on how people perceive you.  Avoid gossip as much as you can.

We should use the power of words to build people and not destroy them.

We had a previous post about this topic that you can read here.

 

Always act with integrity

Integrity is a personal choice, an uncompromising and predictably consistent commitment to honour moral, ethical, spiritual and artistic values and principles – Barbara Killinger

The keyword in the above definition is consistent.  Do the right thing even when no one is looking.  Be honest and trust-worthy at all times.  With poverty at its peak, it’s always good to hear when people show acts of integrity.  It’s a delight to see in the news people who return large sums of money left in cabs or airports.  One can’t help but admire such individuals who in my opinion should be commended for such acts.

 

Think with the end in mind

Picture the result of the choice you made.  How will it affect you?  What will its effect be on other people?  You are most likely to make the right choice if you’ve considered the possibilities not only for yourself but also for others.

How would you like to be remembered?  What story would you like to tell?

 

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Noel Rosos

About Noel Rosos

Noel is a husband, father, author, performance coach and self-proclaimed FAILUROLOGIST who helps business owners and struggling individuals convert their failures into opportunities through inspiring blog posts, life-changing books and exceptional one-on-one coaching sessions

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