Aug 25

7 Things You Need to Stop Complaining About

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Are you complaining too much without taking enough action?

One of the things that keeps us from being happy is tendency to complain for just about anything from the color of our skin, to the clothes we wear, it is in our nature to complain when we fail to satisfy a certain need.

Complaining is not a bad thing, don’t get me wrong.  It only becomes unhealthy when we start opening our mouths than actually doing something about it.  It is a fact of life that we reap what we sow and knowing this, we should know what to expect with the amount of work we put on something.

Here are things you usually complain about that you need to start taking action for.


1. Your job

If you conduct a survey at this very moment, I’m pretty sure more people will tell you they hate their jobs compared to those who are contented.  Even by merely conducting a Google search for the phrase “hate your job” will show you more than a thousand hits.

People hate their jobs for a variety of reasons.  It can be the because they are not passionate about it, or may be because it causes them so much stress to perform their task and that work-life balance seems to be impossible to achieve.  This is completely understandable especially if you are already losing time you should be spending with your family.

I’ve been down this road more than I can remember and in each of those times, it has always been gratitude that made me change my perspective.  There are thousands of people out there who are without a job and are struggling to get one.  I, on the other hand, have one that pays me enough to put food on our table and give my children decent education.

Instead of complaining about the hours you put in your job and how much you hate going to work every morning, you should be looking for reasons why you should love what you do and appreciate your work.


2. Why you continue to struggle despite your efforts

We all have our reasons for working doubly hard.  We all want the best for our families so no matter how hard and stressful our jobs may be, we just keep pushing forward but sometimes, despite your best efforts, you don’t seem to see the progress you’re expecting to reach.

There’s no such thing as an overnight success (unless you won the lottery).  If you are making your own path to success, you should know that you will encounter failure more times than you thought you would and that sometimes you may feel like you want to give up but with the proper mindset, you wouldn’t.

Failure is a the best test of character.  It should bring the best out of you and instead of complaining about the failures you encountered, you should be back on your feet each and every time with the goal of moving forward and never giving up until you reach what you’re aiming for.


3. Why you are not getting the appreciation you deserve

Appreciation motivates people to perform better.  When your efforts are recognized, your self-esteem goes up and your confidence sky-rockets.  In a perfect world, everyone’s efforts should be rewarded but this is not a perfect world.

As much as we want people to appreciate our actions, sometimes it doesn’t get the attention and recognition it rightfully deserves.  But is it really important?

Yes, recognition is important but it should not be the motivation behind every good deed.  We should all do our best without waiting for something in return.  Being able to do what’s expected of you, or exceeding expectations, should be more than enough to remind yourself how responsible and dedicated you are.  Think of appreciation and accolades as bonuses for a job well done.

A friend of mine told me once that you should never work hard and expect promotion because you will be promoted at the right time.  You should not be chasing it because it will come to you.


4. Why people continue to fall short of your expectations

Expectations, as mentioned in my previous post, is what usually brings us disappointment.  You can’t expect people to meet your expectations every time.  We each have our own standards and upbringing that makes us unique individuals and it is in these standards that we build our expectations from.

What you consider generous may not be equally generous to others.  We cannot read each other’s minds to know what everyone thinks about or what each person expects from another.

You cannot change people but you can change the way you think and your attitude towards them.


5. Why the “break” you are waiting for hasn’t come yet

“My time will come.”

“That break that I am waiting for will come soon.”

I’ve heard other people say these things, including myself.  We all have this idea that people get rich or successful because of pure luck.  We believe they are where they are now because of one lucky break that magically changed everything.

People make their own luck and success is a product of hard work and perseverance.  Yes, there may be instances we can categorize a certain event as a game changer but still, without action and persistence, that lucky break wouldn’t have been possible.

Give focus on action because continuously complaining won’t get you that break you are waiting for.


6. Your never-ending problems

Everyone has problems and those who say otherwise is either lying or just too “blessed” not to have one.  Problems will always be a part of our lives whether you like it or not and I believe they are essential just like failure.  You cannot run away from your problems or hide from it.  Problems are meant to be approached head on because it makes you tougher and resilient.

There’s a lot to learn with each problem we encounter and it is through these lessons you will learn that you will appreciate the value of being able to survive and withstand every problem that comes your way.

You can’t define success without knowing the opposite.  If you are living a problem-free life, then you’re not living life the way it should be lived.


7. You continued resistance to change

“The only thing constant in life is change”― François La Rochefoucauld

Just like problems, change is a part of life that we cannot run away from.  It is inevitable and bound to happen whether you like it or not so why do you keep fighting it?

Change is progress and if you are not adapting to the changes happening around you, you are not improving as well.  You should always look for ways to improve yourself and not stay comfortable in doing something you already know so well, you can do it with your eyes closed.

We’re all familiar with the old saying “action speaks louder than words” and this is especially true when it comes to complaining.  Constant complaining is a waste of time.  Time you should be using more productively through action so stop complaining and do what you need to do.

Take action on things you can control and stop blaming others for the mistakes you’ve made and the failures you’ve encountered.

What is your most frequent complain and how were you able to stop it?

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Noel Rosos

About Noel Rosos

Noel is a husband, father, author, performance coach and self-proclaimed FAILUROLOGIST who helps business owners and struggling individuals convert their failures into opportunities through inspiring blog posts, life-changing books and exceptional one-on-one coaching sessions

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