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Feb 23

How to Recover from a Stressful Situation

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How do you move on from a stressful situation?

“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

We were on our way back to Manila from an amazing weekend with our relatives this past Sunday when my wife noticed something leaking just below our car’s engine.

“It’s leaking again Hon.” she told me.

She said again because for the “nth” time, this has been our car’s problem.  It’s just been a month since I had this problem fixed (well I though it was until that night) so HERE WE GO AGAIN!

We went ahead and I decided to stop at the nearest gasoline station along the freeway to refill the engine oil we’ve lost but it was as if the engine had a big hole because the oil just leaked out like dog pee.

I called my mechanic in Manila and he helped me troubleshoot but engine troubleshooting isn’t really my thing so I decided to give the gasoline station’s resident mechanic a call which I should never have done looking back.

The guy had an agenda from the very start because he didn’t want to try what my mechanic was suggesting. He was coming up with different reasons for the leak and he was just stubborn.  He probably sensed that we didn’t have much of a choice because we can’t use the car and we need to get home because we have work and the kids need to go to school.

We finally decided to let him work on the car overnight as long as we can leave by 4:30 AM so we’ll have enough time to travel back to Manila and go to our respective appointments.  He said he can get it done by 4:30 AM so we left the car and three thousand bucks to buy parts.

Long story short, the car didn’t get fixed until 9 AM.  Even worse was that he tried to get more money by replacing parts that didn’t have problems at all.  We ended up paying seven thousand all in all and still ended up absent from work and my kids, from school.

I was really pissed but I can’t do anything.  I’m sure you’ve been in a similar situation and you will agree with me when I say that stressful situations like these are difficult to forget.  It’s hard to move on especially if you ended up on the losing end but I didn’t want it to ruin my positivity so I did everything I can to move past it and this is what I’m going to share with you today.

 

1. Relax

So you’re pissed.  So you’re disappointed.  That’s fine because it’s absolutely natural to feel that way.

It’s normal to be in a bad mood after going through a stressful situation but don’t stay there for long.

Relax.  Take a deep breath.  Close your eyes and listen to the sound of the air coming out of your nose.  Do it for a few minutes until you feel calm.

Clear your head because it’s when you’re mad and emotional that you make bad decisions.  Getting calm helps you think more objectively and logically.  It gives you control over the situation and helps you think more clearly.

 

2. Stop Thinking About It

The thing with stressful situations is that it’s mentally and emotionally draining.  The more you think about it, the more you become miserable so I did the best I can to keep it out of my head.

I told myself, “what’s done is done and I can’t undo it.”

It wasn’t easy especially since it’s still fresh but nothing good will come out of thinking about it.  No matter how irritated and pissed I was, I can never get my money back nor get to work on time.

Watch a movie, have an ice cream, or play your favorite video game.  Do everything you can to get it out of your head because the more you dwell on it, the more you will attract negative things.

Think of the time you woke up on the “bad side” of the bed.  Is it a coincidence that on the very same day it seems that nothing’s going well with just about anything?  Traffic’s bad, work sucks, you’re a mess.  It’s the law of attraction in play so you know what I mean.

Start your day right and you’ll see how everything seems to fall into place.

 

3. Stop Talking About It

Okay so we got hustled.  It’s as simple as that and getting swindled is just plain IRRITATING!

Agree?

Of course you do.

My wife and I both knew we were tricked and we all have a tendency to talk about these kinds of situations over and over perhaps to vent out and get it off our chests which is good actually but not until it gets too much.

Stop talking about it as much as possible because the more you talk about it, the more you’re entertaining the idea that you’re trying to keep out of your head.

My wife would always gripe when she remembers spending 7K so I told her to just drop the subject and stop talking about it because not only will she stress herself, she’ll be stressing me too.  Instead, I brought up the subject of getting a new car and she loved it!

 

4. Look Ahead

What’s done is done and there’s no reason for you to dwell on this stressful situation even further. Instead of thinking about the bad things that happened, try to look ahead and think about what you have gained from this situation.

You might be saying, what the hell Noel, what could I possibly gain from this experience?

 

Well let me explain.

Calm down.

If there’s something I learned from my personal development journey, it’s that every failure, trial or misfortune leaves a lesson we can all learn from.

If your boss chewed you out in a meeting because of a report you submitted, maybe you should come prepared next time.  If someone took advantage of you, maybe you shouldn’t be too nice next time.

Bad things happen to everyone so instead of looking for someone to blame and throwing a fit, look for the opportunities you can get out of it.

 

5. It could have been worse

Gratitude will always be the best remedy for stressful situations and bad circumstances and I’ve experienced this first hand.  Every time you go through difficulties, always look for things you should be thankful for.  After all, it could have been worse right?

When our car broke down last Sunday night (which was also Valentine’s day!), I just thought to myself, it could have been worse.  What if the leak happened in the middle of nowhere and not in the gasoline station?  What if the engine experienced trouble while we’re running?

No matter how bad the situation was, at least we’re safe!  At least there was help available because otherwise,I honestly have no idea what to do given that I have my family with me.  No matter how condescending the mechanic was, at least the car’s now fixed and we were able to go back to Manila safe and sound.

There will always be stressful situations that will come our way and it can come at a time when we least expect it and when it does, there really isn’t much we can do because there’s just some things in this world that we cannot control.

What you have control over is your attitude and if you play your cards right, these bad situations wouldn’t be as bad as they seem unless you give it power over you.

 

Over to You

How do you move on from a stressful situation?

How do you condition your mind and yourself to stay positive in similar situations?

 

I would love to hear from you so I encourage you to leave a comment or share your story below.

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Noel Rosos

About Noel Rosos

Noel is a husband, father, author, performance coach and self-proclaimed FAILUROLOGIST who helps business owners and struggling individuals convert their failures into opportunities through inspiring blog posts, life-changing books and exceptional one-on-one coaching sessions

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  1. Julian Sirian (@JulianSirian)

    Gratitude is a great way of reducing yourself gettting stressed. I’m also starting to re-frame things in a positive light, to help with the gratitude process. Thanks for posting

    1. Noel Rosos
      Noel Rosos

      Yes indeed Julian. Gratitude will always be the best remedy for just about every negative thought there is.

  2. awazieikechi

    Hi Noel

    Well your tips are spot on. When one is through a Stressful Situation, all the emotions are screaming for action. You want to take action almost immediately

    As you highlighted, it is best we calm down till our head cools off.

    Thanks for sharing. Take care

    1. Noel Rosos
      Noel Rosos

      Yes Ikechi its best to calm yourself because we tend to make the wrong decisions when emotions are too high

  3. Catherine

    Being grateful is key. I remember a wise friend told me to give thanks for trials and temptations because when you do, the source completely loses t’s power over you. It is turing a negative in to a positive. If there is evil coming against you (or just plain irritation and inconvenience) thankfulness overcomes it. It lifts the spirit and dispels the darkness. Give thanks in all things every time and your life will never be the same. Thanks for this powerful reminder Noel. Enjoyed your article.

    1. Noel Rosos
      Noel Rosos

      Thanks Catherine! I completely agree. Gratitude is the best weapon for all the negative aspects of our lives. Glad you enjoyed the article.

      Enjoy your weekend!

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